Who’s on the receiving end of a non-molestation order?
Can you explain no-touching orders to me?
As part of divorce procedures, our family lawyers frequently see cases non-molestation order in which fathers are falsely accused of abuse or violent behaviour. Hence, non-molestation orders frequently become a tool used against men during divorce proceedings.
An ex-spouse or partner cannot obtain a non-molestation order against them if they have ever molested the applicant or any of their dependents. When applied to aggression, intimidation, and harassment, the term “molesting” translates to the ban of all forms of physical contact.
It doesn’t matter what gender the victim is, a non-molestation order can help them feel safe. Yet, in reality, most applications come from moms, which makes sense given that women are more likely to be victims of domestic violence.
Sadly, they can also be used as a weapon if they are issued on the basis of false accusations and designed to create conditions under which contact with the kid is difficult or impossible, or if the goal is to portray the father as a violent person who poses a danger to the child.
There have been many examples of one parent filing a non-molestation order against the other on the basis of false charges in an effort to get favourable custody and financial terms in the case of the children involved. Your mental health and your relationship with your kids could take a serious hit as a result of these processes. As a result, many men suffer in silence, their stories and experiences never given the attention or consideration they deserve.
Features and Repercussions of No Contact Orders
It’s not uncommon for fathers to be falsely accused of abusing their children and/or spouses. Some of the more significant outcomes and distinguishing features of abusive non-molestation orders are briefly discussed below.
The “Weaponization” of Children: Your ex-spouse or partner may fabricate complaints about your harsh or cruel treatment of the kids. Your ex-spouse may try to use coercion and manipulation to get the kids to accuse you of harming or abusing them. Judges may decide that a non-molestation order is in your children’s best interest if they are persuaded that the court has a duty to safeguard children and that your children’s welfare is the most important factor.
Reports of Domestic Abuse Against Spouse Occasionally,
one partner may exhibit toxic and even abusive behaviour towards the other, and this is a reality in virtually all relationships. Yet, these instances are often exaggerated and portrayed in a one-sided manner to construct a history of an abusive relationship where the one making the charges is the sole victim upon the breakup of the partnership. Regrettably, many people, particularly women, hold the false belief that by doing so, they can improve their position in the relationship in terms of money and child custody.
Alienation of the Parent: Sometimes one ex will make up lies about you to the other parent in an effort to alienate you from your children’s lives. Your ex-spouse or partner may make statements such, “Your father left us and doesn’t want to see us;” The usual refrains: “Your father is a drug addict and a threat to the family” and “Your father has another family and doesn’t care about us.” The words are meant to “alienate” you and drive a wedge between you and the kids who are led to believe that they cannot have a secure, genuine relationship with you.
False claims can satisfy your ex-demands partner’s to end all contact with you, but at the cost of your connection with the children. False allegations have one goal: to cast doubt on your integrity and parenthood skills, which might harm your chances of mending fences with your kids.